Power – Passion – Purpose
We say that we want change. We say that we want to grow. We say things like “I’ve forgiven” or “it’s not really a big deal to me anymore” because we want to be over it. We’re tired of having the same arguments. Tired of attracting the same toxic people into our lives. Tired of reliving the experiences and emotions that make up our history.
No one enjoys failing. That’s ok, it’s normal. But our fear of failure can be so strong that avoiding any risk of failure obscures the drive to succeed. What’s not ok is when your insecurity directs your behaviour and you subconsciously sabotage your chance for success.
Do you feel like an imposter, pretending to be someone you’re not? Like at any moment you’ll be found out? Like people will discover that you’re a fraud? And when they do, you’ll be discarded. Fired. Cast aside? That’s Imposter Syndrome.
When you’re a People-Pleaser it can be challenging to understand how to break this pattern of behaviour. The first step is to recognize the signs. While it can be challenging to see the reality of the situation, this list below should resonate with you if you’re a People-Pleaser.
You’re responsible for every choice you’ve made….and these choices have placed you exactly where you are.
Chances are, that if you’re reading this, you already understand the power that taking responsibility over your life holds.
Once we recognize that self-worth is an issue for us, then what? How do we improve our self-worth? Self-worth is the intrinsic value that we place on ourselves. It’s the sense of worth that we feel about ourselves without external factors having impact. Self-worth is not determined by outside forces, but rather your sense of self-worth comes from within.
There are so many words to describe how we feel about ourselves, how we think about ourselves, and how we act toward ourselves. It’s understandable if they all start to blend together for you; however, they are indeed different concepts with unique meanings, findings, and purposes.
The critical inner voice is a well-integrated pattern of destructive thoughts toward ourselves and others. The nagging “voices,” or thoughts, that make up this internalized dialogue are at the root of much of our self-destructive and maladaptive behavior.
Confidence is something we all want to have. So why does it sometimes seem impossible to see yourself in a good light? Mostly because you have a lot of clutter in your mind and you prefer to focus on solutions outside of yourself instead of trusting your inner voice. ...
If your perfectionism is not affecting your moods, if you feel great when you achieve something and laugh when you don’t and keep aiming higher, great. You are what’s known as a ‘normal’, ‘adaptive’, or ‘positive’ perfectionist, or what some people would say should just be called a high achiever. This type of perfectionism is healthy and serves to propel you towards your goals.
But if you are one of the many who suffer with their perfectionism, who live with a running soundtrack of self-defeating thoughts and constantly feel like life lets you down, then you have, ‘maladaptive’, or ‘negative’ perfectionism.
If you struggle with perfectionism, I know where you’re coming from.
In fact, I’m a recovering perfectionist, which we all know means that I still struggle with this at times. Giving up my perfectionist tendencies was one of the hardest things I had to do, so you need to prepare yourself for a bumpy ride.
Have you ever noticed that we can be easily upset by someone else’s perspective?
Or worse, their perception of us?
Confronted with a comment, suggestion or criticism, we can often feel anxious, angry or confused.
That’s an emotional trigger.