Power – Passion – Purpose
A blog for women navigating relationships, parenting, personal development & mid-life.
If you want connection and intimacy and great love and a relationship that stands the test of time, you must create that intention. It cannot be the last priority, you cannot blame your partner for the circumstances of the bond you share and you must choose each other.
And here’s the pivot point: You cannot change someone else.
The saddest part is that I tried to be who I thought that ‘they’ wanted me to be. I didn’t know that I could be myself…be all of me. All of my imperfections and awkwardness and awesomeness…that makes me unique.
Authenticity is uncomfortable and difficult to achieve, especially if we’re worried about what everyone else thinks. If we’re worried about judgment it’s never gonna work. …and it’s essential for connection.
Amidst the ‘busy’ and the kids and everything that keeps us running forward, what I experienced was a little voice saying ‘it’s not enough’. It’s kind of like my intuition was trying to tell me something that I’m not sure I was ready or willing to hear.
This feeling of wanting to be a part of something, wanting to be good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, ….this yearning for connection…it defines so much of our lives and who we are. But the part of acceptance that we often miss, is that we first have to accept ourselves.
You feel it… That naggy little tightness in your neck or shoulders…. That heaviness in your chest… The knots in your stomach as your day progresses…
That’s stress….and it’s like poison in your body.
We can feel so powerless when anxiety takes over, but that’s not actually true. It’s the opposite: We have all the control…all the power. It’s in reminding ourselves and taking consistent action, that we take control…take away control from anxiety…and get back to living.
I’ll use the analogy of physical fitness: You go to the gym because you want to be more healthy, lose some weight and feel better. But you hire a personal trainer to help you get to the next level. They hold you accountable, get specific on what you need to do for your body and help you achieve your individual goals.
It’s the same for Life Coaching: We are the personal trainers for your mind.
The greatest impact on your ability to navigate this transitional period in your life is your ability to be proactive in your own health care. Don’t allow anyone to tell you that this is all in your head.
Men and women experience similar changes physically and hormonally as we age. However while men seem to be ok with demonstrating their struggle, women often fluff over how we’re really feeling and give a “life’s great” answer amidst the turmoil we really feel.
The benefits of creating more work-life balance are enormous. This balance creates a sense of peace…of things being in harmony…of having time.
I always include daily meditation in any foundation of self-care whether for my clients or myself. It is THE number one way to change both your mindset and your intentions on a daily basis. While any self-care regime can be challenging to structure into your day, meditation offers a simple, time-efficient and effective strategy for changing the your mental outlook.