The critical inner voice is a well-integrated pattern of destructive thoughts toward ourselves and others. The nagging “voices,” or thoughts, that make up this internalized dialogue are at the root of much of our self-destructive and maladaptive behavior.
Confidence is something we all want to have. So why does it sometimes seem impossible to see yourself in a good light? Mostly because you have a lot of clutter in your mind and you prefer to focus on solutions outside of yourself instead of trusting your inner voice. ...
If your perfectionism is not affecting your moods, if you feel great when you achieve something and laugh when you don’t and keep aiming higher, great. You are what’s known as a ‘normal’, ‘adaptive’, or ‘positive’ perfectionist, or what some people would say should just be called a high achiever. This type of perfectionism is healthy and serves to propel you towards your goals.
But if you are one of the many who suffer with their perfectionism, who live with a running soundtrack of self-defeating thoughts and constantly feel like life lets you down, then you have, ‘maladaptive’, or ‘negative’ perfectionism.
If you struggle with perfectionism, I know where you’re coming from.
In fact, I’m a recovering perfectionist, which we all know means that I still struggle with this at times. Giving up my perfectionist tendencies was one of the hardest things I had to do, so you need to prepare yourself for a bumpy ride.
Have you ever noticed that we can be easily upset by someone else’s perspective?
Or worse, their perception of us?
Confronted with a comment, suggestion or criticism, we can often feel anxious, angry or confused.
That’s an emotional trigger.
Guilt that motivates us to apologize fulfills the purpose of experiencing the guilt in the first place. This is the virtuous side of guilt. However guilt that manifests into shame and changes what we believe to be true about ourselves is like a noose around our necks. It destroys our emotional energy and leaves us feeling immobilized and deeply entrenched in shame.
Whether you’re beating yourself up about a mistake you made yesterday or obsessing about how you will perform tomorrow, you’re stuck in overthinking. While most of us overthink sometimes, some people just can’t ever seem to quiet the constant barrage of thoughts. Their inner monologue is on a constant repeat of two destructive thought patterns—rumination and worry.
Finding a good life coach can be difficult, but it doesn’t have to be. With the large selection of life coaches to choose from it can be confusing trying to determine which one is the right choice for you. You may even find yourself doubting your decision or being...
2020 was a challenging year for many of us. It was a year of change, loss and uncertainty. It was also a year of growth, understanding and shifts in perspective.
But can we really move forward into 2021 creating something new if we haven’t reconciled the lessons of 2020?
Imagine this: The sensation of a million thoughts whizzing through your mind. So many things… So many jobs and to-dos and items to be taken care of. Thoughts and feelings and events…all jumbled together in one big mess. A million things that keep whizzing and soon you’ve spent an hour overwhelmed and stressed trying to figure out where to start. That’s mental clutter. That’s why we Brain Dump.
It’s interesting that we live in a society that is preoccupied with fault, blame and deferral of responsibility and then when people seem to be stuck, they don’t understand why.
The images that portray working from home, artificially glamorize the situation. In reality, for some WFH has been awesome while for others, full-time remote work has been more of a nonstop monsoon of tasks, emails and Zooms. The question remains: Is WFH contributing to an increased lack of balance between home and work life?